Thursday, June 3, 2010

Am I Crazy or Is He Cheating?


Late night calls, excuses that just don’t add up, strange perfume on his clothes and the classic lipstick on the collar; these are signs that something isn’t right. Relationships can be rocky and your man may be stepping out on you. Statistics show that over 50% of all marriages end up in divorce and a cheating spouse is the top reason that more than half of all married couples end up in divorce court. Before you waste any more time on a cheating man, learn the signs that you may be headed down a road of heartbreak.

Trust your gut. Learn to listen to that little voice inside of you that resides in your heart. Folk lore used to say years ago that the heart resided in the stomach. People used to believe that your emotions came from your gut and they weren’t far from the truth. You know that feeling that you get when something doesn’t add up. The sick suspicion you feel when a red flag comes up. That is your gut trying to alert you to a lie. You know your man and how he acts, if he starts acting strangely around you, chances are something is wrong.

Cheating Men Signs

Has your relationship changed? Does he no longer touch you or kiss you as much as he used to? Do you feel disconnected from him? These are signs that he is showing his affections elsewhere. If he gets defensive when you ask him about where he is going or what he is doing, this is cause for worry. Keep track of the excuses he gives you for his actions. Cheaters normally can’t keep track of what they tell you from one excuse to the next so if he is lying, things will start to sound off kilter and not add up.

How does he act when he’s on the phone? If your man has to step outside each time he gets an unexpected phone call, he’s more than likely hiding something. If you can get a hold of his cell phone, check his call logs. Who is he calling and when? If you see a number that is unfamiliar to you on his received and dialed numbers, it may be his lover. If you ask him about it you can gauge his response and tell if he is hiding the truth.

One of the surest ways you can tell if you man is cheating is if he comes home from work or a night out smelling clean. This means he has taken a shower to wash away any evidence of his activities. Smelling fresh and clean is nice, but not after supposedly working all day or spending the night out with the boys.

Facing the fact that your man is a cheater is hard. You feel betrayed and hurt and you have every right to feel this way. Don’t feel like you have to put up with a cheater. Some women tolerate this behavior for the sake of their children. They think that their children will be better off with if their parents stay together even though they are miserable. Your children know something is wrong and children can sense much more than we give then credit for. If you suspect your man is cheating on you, watch for the signs and confront him. No one deserves to be lied to and everyone deserves to be happy. It will be hard at first but once the truth is out you can make a decision to either dump him or try to work it out.